“My kids have a thing tonight. We won’t be there.” 60 minutes before your small group is about to begin, the texts start rolling in… “I’m having a crazy week. Not going to make it tonight.” “My kids have a thing tonight. We won’t be there.” “I’ve got a headache. Gonna stay home.” As a Small Group leader, it can be especially frustrating to receive these texts on days when you’ve had a crazy week, or your kids have things, or you have a headache. The easiest thing to do is to just cancel your small group meeting this week;…
Keep Your Wounds From Becoming Walls
[su_quote]Ministry thrives on real relationships; so building walls of protection around yourself keeps you from building strong relationships with others. [/su_quote] A stinging pinch of truth I bet you can remember the first real backstabbing you ever received while serving in ministry. I remember my first, and I also remember some important words spoken to me by a close pastor friend shortly after… “Welcome to ministry.” Initially, I didn’t really understand what he meant. That little statement contained a bit of humor, a touch of sarcasm, and a stinging pinch of truth. Ultimately it was an important adjustment…
We Need Each Other
[su_quote]No, I’m not talking about little social clubs or touchy-feely support groups.[/su_quote] Following Jesus is a lifelong journey. If you are following Jesus, you have likely already discovered that staying on course doesn’t just happen naturally. Every moment there are dozens of things working against our best efforts to stay on the path – some come from the outside and some come from within. Either way, it is no wonder God tells us over and over that we need each other on this journey. The need goes way beyond a church service. Corporate worship and preaching are vital; but…
Check Your Motive
[su_quote]“Make sure you are always working hard at leading people towards Jesus – not towards you.”[/su_quote] Be honest… at the end of your small group meeting, which of these two thoughts would you prefer is on everyone’s mind? “Wow, my leader is so smart! He/she explained some very interesting things.” “Wow, the more I thought about that verse, the more I realized what God is saying.” The first statement isn’t necessarily bad (you definitely don’t want the opposite!); but if people are more impressed with YOU than God’s Word, you are way off course. Or to put it a…
How to Spot a Lie
“It didn’t sound like a lie!” If you knew it was a lie, would you continue to believe it? We are quick to assume we would never believe a lie. But sadly, we all fall prey to a few or more lies every day. The problem is that we don’t see them for what they really are. It Didn’t Sound Like a Lie! Our enemy, also known as the “Father of Lies,” has spent thousands of years perfecting his craft. And to make matters worse, he has already dealt with countless versions of people just like you. He knows…
6 Advanced Tips for Preparing and Asking Good Discussion Questions
[su_quote]God sometimes uses unresolved questions to grow us in ways that simple answers cannot.[/su_quote] With a little practice, you can become skilled at guiding people through meaningful discussion. Once you are comfortable with the basics of asking good questions, you can continue to advance your abilities a little further. Here are 6 tips to help… 1. Sometimes it is wise to explore the answer someone may give …even if their answer is technically correct. Ask follow up questions to discover how clearly they understand the response that was given. Example: “How is a person saved?” Possible answers: “By having…
6 Basic Tips for Preparing and Asking Good Discussion Questions
[su_quote]Think of ways to help your group discover on their own.[/su_quote] Guided discussion takes careful preparation. It is necessary to study deep enough for you to personally understand the passage; but it is important to press on further to think of ways to help your group discover on their own. Here are six basic tips to help your small group get the most out of the discussion. 1. Start with open-ended questions or “no-one-right-answer” questions. These types of questions help funnel people’s minds from their day filled with work, home, kids, and craziness into the discussion. These questions will…
How to Develop Guided Questions
[su_quote]People do not come to a small group for a lecture.[/su_quote] As a small group leader, how do you keep your group engaged in the discussion? We have all likely experienced a small group discussion that fell flat. Whether it was an over-talkative small group leader or a discussion that wandered in circles, these are the moments when ceiling tiles are counted and daydreamers drift. The solution can be pretty simple. Think of the differences between a lecture and a guided discussion. During a lecture, people are presented information and facts – hopefully in an organized and interesting way. Lectures…
Focused, Encouraged, and Moving Forward (3/3)
[su_quote]They would face growing hostility and would need strong encouragement to keep going.[/su_quote] What’s so important about fellowship? I wouldn’t have much interest in church-community (or “fellowship”) if I thought about it the way it is often perceived and/or presented. Let’s be honest, we are all too busy for extra social events; and most are not really into touchy-feely gatherings. BUT THAT IS NOT WHAT TRUE BIBLICAL COMMUNITY IS ABOUT. What is Biblical community (or fellowship)? Wouldn’t it be awesome to be able to peek through a window at one of the gatherings of the early church… to…
Learning to Follow Jesus (2/3)
[su_quote]Spiritual maturity is not an achievement – it is a lifelong pursuit.[/su_quote] Returning to discipleship Over time, the church has mistakenly watered down our understanding of what discipleship means. Even good intentions to streamline and program discipleship has left plenty of misconceptions along the way. Pause for just a minute and think about all the different kinds of things Jesus’ own disciples experienced together. Being a disciple was far more involved that simply studying the scriptures. It involved action, serving together, learning, teaching, and so much more. With this in mind, how does discipleship fit into a small…