“My kids have a thing tonight. We won’t be there.”
60 minutes before your small group is about to begin, the texts start rolling in…
- “I’m having a crazy week. Not going to make it tonight.”
- “My kids have a thing tonight. We won’t be there.”
- “I’ve got a headache. Gonna stay home.”
As a Small Group leader, it can be especially frustrating to receive these texts on days when you’ve had a crazy week, or your kids have things, or you have a headache. The easiest thing to do is to just cancel your small group meeting this week; but let me encourage you to reconsider.
Only one or two…
There may be times when almost everyone in the group notifies you that they will not be coming that week. You start thinking about texting the rest of the group to let them know you are cancelling. Ahhh, a night off. You won’t have to get the house ready. You can just relax! It’s tempting. But here’s the problem… When you cancel on the one or two who plan to come, you undermine their commitment. They are being faithful to the group, and to your leadership. Let them come over. Skip the study if you’d like. Have some snacks. Ask about their lives. There are times when these nights prove to be some of the most meaningful conversations and important investments you make in others.
What about your crazy schedule? When something comes up that conflicts with your small group meeting time, work hard at finding other options before you simply cancel. Try to work around it. If you are married, try to arrange for one of you to stay with the group and the other go. If you absolutely cannot be there, try to arrange for someone else in the group to host/lead that week. Yes, I understand the pressure; and yes, I understand the importance of commitment to your family. But consider this… Your commitment to being at your own group week after week builds a foundation that others can rely on – even if their attendance isn’t as consistent.
A Rare Occasion
That said, there may be an occasion when you have no other option but to call off a night. No problem. But for the health of your small group, strive to make cancelling a rare occasion.